How would you feel? Why cheated, of course.

Gay men who pretend!!!!!!! And, not just to be your friend. Ladies too.

Good golly, in this day and age, why? why? would anyone feel the need to hide their feelings about any subject?

Unless, of course you were in China, talking down the present administration-----seems you get real jail time for that.
Or in Cincinnati, spreading, not cheer, but HIV, to multiple partners, that will get you 150 years.

And, if you fear someone being homophobic towards you, why would you marry that person?, essentially ruining their life? castrating their feelings ? when they find out you are not the man or woman they married?
I mean, that would take a unique and forgiving individual to continue in that relationship ---or a very insecure one......probably not gonna last? or would it?

Ahhh, Love....knows no bounds. In truth, I do believe this.
When however, does it become stupidity?
I think confusion can and does play a part here.

What happens when you find out, thinking you are in a "committed" relationship, that the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with, has been spending their time with someone of the same sex? Same sex to them.....and why is this any different than them cheating with someone of the opposite sex?

I once heard a woman complain--"if he ( her spouse)  were cheating with another woman, I would know how to fight that, but I don't know where to begin with this". ( a bi/gay-man having an affair with another man)

This is a touchy subject for anyone and everyone........however, it is also one that leaves you  feeling alone and helpless and confused. Usually the person being cheated on, but often times, both parties.

And, it is a very interesting that you, if you are  the person being cheated on, would feel differently about the person who has professed to love you until the day they die, if they were having an affair or many affairs, with a person of their same sex.

Why?????? Isn't a cheater a cheater? Sure, they are.

In extra-marital affairs, the person cheating does so from and for many reasons, usually mainly selfish ones, however, professing to be soooo confused.

 In relationships that do not involve a judge, church, and paperwork, it is believed by some folks, that no matter what they say to the contrary, perhaps in a moment of bliss, that they are not really required to behave in any particular fashion, other than what feels good at the moment.
And some folks believe this with all the attendant legal-esse....hmmm.
The classic cheater.

Usually, if there are children involved, as a product of this relationship, or from another, the cheater globs onto them as their temporary shield-swinging it back and forth to both sides......"I can't leave the children" -and I say, "the child is being damaged in this relationship, too".

Or claims that "financially", they are forced to stay with the spouse or partner they are "committed" to.
I feel sorry for the person being cheated on, if  this is the case.....sad. Or they cannot afford to leave with the kids. Sadder still.

There are no easy answers.....and it doesn't seem to be clear cut..unless you object to being cheated on in general....with all the scary stuff that goes with it. STD's. HIV. Aids. Emotional distress. Psychological illness. ( medicated peeps who don't tell, until they have sucked you in-could be a whole nuther blog post)

I will say, I heard about a couple, she pregnant with their second child-first one still a baby, and the FBI comes and gets Daddy, for online solicitation of a minor--the FBI agent played the minor in this scenario.( ugh) Would not have mattered if he was gay, straight or Bi----he is going to jail and every one's life is in ruins.......their former life. We have every hope that Mom and the kids will rise above this horror. God Bless.

There are no easy-peasy answers when our emotions are at risk........I mean people are so irrational sometimes...murders occur. We read about it all the time.

I use to watch Court TV and remember the case with the Doctor---who was a transvestite and walked into the home and killed his soon to be ex-wife---(who had kicked his kinky ass out)--in front of their children......he is in jail? still? He claimed an obscure mental illness, I believe----RIGHT---call it narcissistic bullshit.

The plain fact is, I do believe that anyone, who kills another human being, does have some form of psychosis. I do.

Well, if nothing else, this blog has been food for thought. And alot of people are confused about their gender. And seek someone in their life for comfort and find they are not happy with the gender choice, they have made. It is a sad life changing event for all concerned.

I object to people who know they are not straight and involve a straight person in their relationship, because they just want to be a cheater, but maintain some kind of goofy cover deal. Or someone has cheated on them and now it is their turn to harm someone, unsuspecting person, who has tired to bring real love to their broken life. Karma will deal with this nutter.

 So--- the 50's. Evolve......dumbshit. And does society force this on them? Be honest, to some degree, we are still in the 50's.

Here's my thought for the day: ( Okay, in the movie Troy-I loved Hector----but, that line before battle: "love your woman"-Hector's code.....doesn't work for this conversation)erhm-ie....
So, I guess.....be good to everyone you meet------take care and think about what you are doing.
Never do anything from revenge......it will destroy you, eventually, and if you cannot help yourself, seek quality medical help.

Life is short------and can, with a few good choices, be lived well. Things often occur that we have no immediate control over, and I tell you, your reaction to these define you-the real you.