Hard-headed ----ouch! and Karma.

I was reading a blog post, by a friend on Wills-as in Last one and testament--and thought to myself---I need to share on this subject-and what a great writer she has and is evolving into....."Maria Gets Real",  is the name of her blog and it is really interesting. Check it out....worth the read and with pictures.

I went to the emergency room yesterday. I have had a nerve pulsing-pulsing---just God-awful pain----and finally, yesterday, after three days of it being ouch ( day 1) -OUCH ( day 2) -and then on a scale of 1-10-the pain was unbearable ( day 3) I ended up at the hospital.
 So, now,  I am cruising along on some major anti-inflammatory and pain killing drugs, so this will probably be a long blog post--so pace yourself...haha.

I am a hard-headed person who really loathes taking synthetic drugs.
 I worked in a sick building and out of 13 women in one office----all but 2, became seriously ill. As in had to leave our jobs, ill.
The doctors I saw,  wanted me to take a bunch of pain meds which I tried and hated--made  me feel so
awful-strung out-weak, etc.
I  was watching a program one day-called:
 8 Weeks to Optimum Healing with Andrew Weil, and found after 8 weeks of using his program,  that Drugs were not the answer......Healing was, using healthy alternatives.
However, it has made me hold out on going to the doctor, and sometimes that is a really bad thing-like yesterday.
 I  really should have seen someone day 1-and would have been better by now.....not so bad, etc.

Back to the Will...People often times believe that if I write a will-all of my wishes will be observed---this is based on the trust they place in the person supposed to execute said will. Good grief, Charlie Brown.
 A favorite saying---WHEN did the lobotomy take place??

And-God forbid-you have a friend, say...you have a common interest-coin collecting----and your friend dies suddenly--you had some coins at his house at the time of his demise---Whut Oh!
GOOD LUCK on retrieving those coins.....even if the Will says your personal property is to be returned to you ( said friend anticipated this might happen).
 If the executor wants to be snarky-they can make you prove anything at the deceased home is yours, and if you can't and they are unethical---you are NOT getting your coins back.

People can become ( talking about family members here) so irrational-you swear you do not recognize them-at the time of a parents death.
 They feel, for some pathetic reason, that Mother wanted them to have all of the pots and pans----this from your sister the millionaire-that wants for nothing, but needs to get a grip.

It is a sad commentary of the human side of some people. Greed. They become for a moment, insane with it.

I have seen all of the above happen.....and it, along with your grief, really makes you want to cry.

So how can you insure that your final wishes are carried out. Well, you honestly can't. Unless you do some stuff before the final hour.

Give anything ( yes, this includes money) you want someone to have, to them, before you die.
What a friggin novel concept.....it is not.

Do it now--none of us think we will die and so don't do anything at all. And the very thought of death is so unpleasant that we won't even consider that it could happen to us.
It will and does......

There are people who are like-"Oh well, I won't be here-let them figure /fight it out".

Death in a family is probably one of the most prominent separation tools that exist. Meaning  the family members left-become estranged over the "Will" of the deceased.

Being specific-doesn't work.
 I know of an instance, where items were left at the dead person's home and were listed, in a codicil ,to be immediately returned to the person to whom they belonged, but were withheld by the family, from the person who owned those items, to the tune of thousands of dollars. Sad and sloppy.

Makes you wonder if this is why people are haunted.......by their own feelings of guilt. Hmmmm.

Court will  not help-----the above executor was taken to court by three heirs.....to no avail. A story emerged that the deceased person's home had been broken into many times-so the items mentioned were never found. While the executor was waiting to list items for Probate. Very convenient---but it worked.

Plus, lawyers are terribly expensive-----around $250 per hour? Wow!

Fun times.......I know...but consider......if it matters to you--be pro-active...if not, then no problemo-----
Stay healthy folks. And distribute now...while you still can.

Make sure your wishes are carried out-know they are-because you do so.....Now!!!!!!